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Chapter 5, The Bridal Party

A snippet from Chapter 5, "The Bridal Party"

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I got married in the days of the big traditional southern weddings. Since my husband and I were from the same area, we knew most of the people we invited would probably attend. As we started planning the wedding, I was not surprised to find that my husband was not one of these ’Oh, honey you just make that decision. Whatever you decide is fine with me’, types. Oh no, he was detailed oriented and wanted to participate, which I appreciated - to a point. OK when he told me the bridesmaids' dresses I selected looked like they were made out of ’shower curtain’ material I was ready for him to find another hobby.

Then we started discussing the wedding party. I came from a very small family - one brother and a few younger cousins. He was one of four children, two of whom were already married with children. He had lots of cousins, many of them he was close to. By the time he told me who he needed to have in the wedding including groomsmen and bridesmaids, out of 12 attendants, I was left with room for 2 cousins, 3 sorority sisters, and 1 friend. When it was all over, we had 12 groomsmen, 12 bridesmaids, a maid of honor, a best man, a ring bearer and a flower girl.

Chapter 31, Say Yes to the Dress

A few paragraphs from Chapter 31, Say Yes to the Dress
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I despise reality TV. But I was aware of a show called, ‘Say Yes to the Dress’. Just from the ads I saw, it involved a lethal combination of divas and their search for a weddings dress - talk about drama.

       I cannot decide which would be more annoying of two scenarios. First there was the episode following the southern girl with her mother in tow trying to make sure she chose some gown that involved a hoop skirt, cathedral train, and required a cadre of young girls to keep it perfectly aligned as she glided down the aisle like a float in the Tournament of Roses parade. 

        Then they featured the girl from Staten Island, whose voice would rip wallpaper clean off the wall, who stated right up front, she liked sexy and bling as she shook her long bleached tresses from her face. Spare me.

         My husband asked me if our daughter had even considered wearing my wedding dress. It is a good thing I didn't get my feelings hurt because both of my daughters made it very clear they did not plan to wear my wedding dress when they got married. In fact only their polite southern upbringing thinly veiled their disgust over the fashion of my day or lack thereof. 

       So my mother wore an elegant sleeveless satin gown with a fitted lace bodice over it (and her 18 inch waist) and my daughter planned to wear a slender white lace gown that fit her tall thin figure. Then there was me, who chose something more like a fairy tale. Don't think Cinderella, my gown was more akin to the dress Princess Fiona wore - after she kissed her Prince. 

        As life moved on I went with my daughter for the fitting of her wedding gown. The store or rather I should say boutique was in Charleston and specialized in upscale designer gowns and the owner took very good care of her customers. 

       The appointment ahead of us was running a little late, so I took that time to look through the racks of gowns. The styles had changed a lot since the days of my provincial gown. In fact thinking back on it,  comparatively speaking, my gown looked like something out of a bad opera before the fat lady sang. These gowns were breathtaking, well most were. Some were a little over the top 

(after all, one had to cater to the divas.) 

Chapter 15, Venues, Venues, Venues

Here are a few paragraphs from Chapter 15, "Venues, Venues, Venues" of the new book.
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              Given most brides were trying to find places a year in advance, when my daughter told me she wanted to get married in April - of that year - in the Low Country - on a specific Saturday, I panicked. Of course, she had a particular location. OK, let's be specific. Why not make this a blood sport?

             I could not help but think of many of the weddings I had attended over the years. One came to mind that was held at a fairly unique venue. A Yankee from New Jersey came south bought some land and decided it would make a beautiful wedding venue. To enhance its image he built a replica plantation house that could be rented out.

            So let me paint you the picture here - we had a Yankee from New Jersey who came and bought land in the deep south, he built a big white house with Corinthian columns and put porticoes around it, called it a plantation, and rented it out to us southerners for exorbitant rates - which some idiots paid. Talk about selling ice to the Eskimos.

       And, of course, as always, the Yankee was determined to civilize us "heathens" and bring culture to the backwoods of the rural south. Please define "culture". We were seated in white chairs on a wide expanse of green lawn overlooking the pond (all man-made to fit the antebellum theme) for the nuptials. Throughout the ceremony the preacher had to pause due to the loud revving of engines that could be heard coming from the nearby drag strip (some good 'ol boy flavor the Yankee didn't quite count on.)

        As the preacher announced the bride and groom and they started making their way up the aisle, a loud boom went off. Some true Old South flare? A friend sitting nearby nonchalantly said, "Oh, that's Trish."

           I looked at her. "What do you mean Trish? Knowing who she was referring to but not having a clue what Trish had to do with the near sonic boom we just heard.

          "That was Trish's cannon." I looked at her totally perplexed. "She has three cannons and she likes to shoot them at special occasions, like ball games, and the births of her grandchildren."

                   "And weddings," I added.

"Especially weddings," our friend said.

The venue may have been owned by a Yankee, but how much more southern can you get than a wedding in the shadow of a white house built for show, interrupted by the Saturday evening noises of the local drag strip and highlighted by the boom of a real cannon. Even an entrepreneuring Yankee couldn't come up with that much color.

Chapter 8, The Competitive Game of Gifts

The first few paragraphs of Chapter 8 -"The Competitive Game of Gifts"
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Visiting the home of the Mother of a Bride to see the gifts the couple had received was a tradition in the south when I got married.  In fact it was more of a social occasion. In some ways it was a competitive sport. There were two sides -offensive and defensive. Offensive was the Bride's Mother with the gifts on display somewhere between a dowry - the spoils of the game and a TV show prize bank. Defense was comprised of the individual guests and the gifts they sent. One was truly judged by their gift. And if you cared about such you better make sure you sent an appropriate gift, because the game was on.

          There was a hierarchy of gifts. A place setting in the Bride's formal china, a piece in her sterling silver pattern, or four (or more) pieces of stemware in her fine crystal were considered premium gifts. Depending on the competition in the above category, in close contention followed a place setting in the Bride's everyday china, a complete set of pots and pans (copper bottoms only), a linen table cloth and twelve matching napkins (white only), a pair of crystal candlesticks, a set of sheets, or an original piece of art. A casserole dish, a small appliance (such as an electric can opener or hand held mixer), single piece of everyday china, or place mats were placed on a separate table, displayed as if they were consolation gifts.

           All the above would easily be trumped by a piece of fine antique furniture, a Baccarat decanter,...